Taking a candid look at one of the simplest, but powerful elements of relationship, lust. What is it? How can we use it properly and most importantly, how can it make our relationships better. Also included: Understanding the Elements and Plain Talk
Elements Of Relationship
"Expressions In Real Life"
LUST
F. Alexander
Copyright © June/2016
ISBN: 9781310427213
RelationshipGED@gmail
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Introduction / Understanding Elements
Expressions In Real Life / LUST
INTRODUCTION / Understanding Elements
"In this life, we all should come to a point of
realizing that there are some things that are more important than others and
one of these things is relationship."
F. Alexander
Hopefully most will agree that relationships can be complex
and complicated, but another truth that we might not agree on is that they
usually get this way because of our lack of relationship education.
Relationship education is key and no matter the type of relationship, who's
involved or even how long you've been within it won't change this important
fact: all relationships are created by the means of bringing together a
collection of relationship elements and most of us simply don't know enough
about this process. Relationship elements and process? What are these elements
and why haven't you heard about them, right?
Well the truth is most of us are familiar with many of the
main elements of relationship, but may not be so clear on how to use them best.
Then there are those elements that we don't quite understand, misuse or simple
ignore because our relationship education isn't up to speed. But for now, what
we need to understand is that these elements, when bound together, produce this
wonderful thing we collectively call relationship. Luckily for us all, one of
relationship's most fascinating gifts is to allow all to enter, although all
aren't properly prepared to live within it.
Relationship education teaches us about these elements, how
to use them properly, when to use them at all and why all of this is important
to our relationships. Let me show you what this means by using this analogy.
Imagine taking a look into an auto mechanic's tool box. Do
you notice how it's full with the many tools used to get various jobs done? Big
tools, little tools, simple tools and even some of those complicated tools that
we may never have seen before. Although you may not be a mechanic, you can
understand that these are the mechanic's tools used to get jobs done. Each tool
having a different name, different looks and of course different purposes can
all work alone or as partners together. When a job needs to get done, first
it’s the mechanic's vast education of various jobs that she turns to that helps
her in preparing a proper plan of action. Next, she'll consult with her sound
education of each tool presently in her toolbox to pick out those that can
assist her in reaching her goal. From studying and training, she knows each
tool, its purpose and how to use it properly during a job. Fortunately for her,
if a needed tool isn't in her box, she knows how to seek it out. She can find
it, get it and complete her work. Finally, she will plan a start time, setup
her tools and get the job done as professionally and efficiently as she can. So
the questions for you are:
Would you even consider hiring a mechanic that doesn't
understand the job at hand?
What about hiring a mechanic that doesn't know which tool
is best for the job?
If my guess is correct, you answered NO to both of those
questions, right? Then, should we also agree that being the best mechanic for
our relationships is the better choice? Within every successful relationship
that’s been created to continually shower us with the elements of honesty, love,
compassion and security, we will find mechanics who understanding and practice
the true values found within studying relationship. Likewise, each element of
relationship is a tool. Our tools should be available and ready to be used to
help create and keep our relationships running on wonderful. As mechanics of
our relationships, we are held responsible for studying, learning and
understanding them along with the tools, or elements that we use to make them
work. Our education with the proper use of our tools can be powerful when used
to create and maintain our relationship's beauty.
Although it may be widely believed that our relationships
are simply good ones or bad, this is not truth. Unlike ourselves, who were
raised by complicated people, relationships are built. Building relationships
gives us the chance of perfectly constructing them, if we so choose. Seeking
relationship education is the key here! Knowing the elements of relationship,
what they are, their purposes and how to use them properly will increase our
opportunities of creating relationships built for success.
PLAIN TALK / From Teacher to Scholar
Now what can we say about this vicious little word called
lust? First, I must agree here with most people I know. Like them, I use to
only think on the word LUST in a negative manner. I remember, the word itself
seemed to just invoke dirty little ideas of deceitful thoughts, actions or
feelings within me. As I'm sure you know, we can easily find endless
information to support these negative ideas, but is that all of what lust
is? Being a good teacher required that I
take a deeper look and that's exactly what I did.
So I clearly found that unlike love, lust is about what a
person is going to get, not give. This clearly means lust is centered on gaining
within a situation and not focused on the give and take found in successful
relationships. But what I also found is that lust has thick roots of
description within religion. This is where it gets its sinful label, coupled
with deceitful intentions and that single understanding that uncontrolled lust
will lead us down a dark path toward death.
But then, just when I thought I was left to only understand
the darkness of lust, I found a shining star. As it seems, there are those whom
believe lust is great and possibly even fabulous. Now I'm not sure I would go
that far to say it's fabulous, but what my research shows is the perspective
which allows someone to view lust this very way. And for those of us whom study
relationship, we aren't surprised in learning this because we understand there
are always pro and con sides to our elements of relationship.
Understanding and getting to know lust should quickly show
anyone that it's not a sophisticated element of relationship in comparison to
some of its partners. But don't you dare count lust out just because its
simplistic. Studying also reveals that it makes up for its lack of
sophistication with its intense power to instantly amplify other elements of
relationships. Like an unregulated power surge of electricity, lust infuses
certain elements making them energized well pass normal levels.
Unfortunately, when our intentions during this
amplification aren't positive, our reactions to the elements are also very much
uncommon. This looks similar to how children react to a high intake of sugar
when they eat too much candy. They might not immediately change into totally
different children, but what we clearly see are impulsive reactions to the
ideas that pop into their heads and their over the top emotional reactions to
our attempts in trying to calm them down.
In the same fashion, lust may slowly and sometimes
unexpectedly creep in and then BAM, it hits us hard! Now depending on who's the
center target of our lust, there may be a chance of mutual pleasure, but this
doesn't seem to be a requirement up front. Although lust can be used to
describe passion towards other things outside of sex, it's definition doesn't
sway much from it. So let's stick with its common definition and identify how
we can use it positively in our relationships.
As simple an element as lust seems to be, its power can't
be denied. If we allow, its power can be displayed as a huge unrestricted
hurricane moving in random directions at will and causing unlimited destruction
all along its way. While the intensity it brings on can only be compared to a
uncontrollable raging fire that burns everything it touches completely to its
core. Its power and intensity, these are the factors within this element of
relationship that we must always direct and keep under our control.
Picking our object of focus and how we choose to react is
how we first keep lust within our control. Logically we have to approve or
reject a target before any actions are permitted, so here we see that choosing
is essential. Once we have a target, we can then streamline our reactions
toward just this one target restricting its intensity. Although lust is often
considered negative, I'm beginning to believe this idea has more to do with
choosing the wrong targets than about lust itself. Have you ever wondered if
this negative outlook of lust will hold true when we chose an appropriate
target?
Friends, lovers, spouses and even strangers can all be
chosen as targets of our lust. So who's to say, which of these are appropriate
targets or not? We are! Lust for a friend or a lover may turn out nice. Lust
with a spouse can brighten up your life. Even lust for a stranger could turn on
excitement. Just as all these target choices can have a positive benefit, they
all can still backfire, crash and then burn when we act out on them.
Uncontrolled lust can cloud our thoughts and have us responding in ways we've
never imagined. Doing things about our lust to others and ourselves can also
land us in positions we may not think of before we acted on them.
No matter what we do, each element of relationship has its
place and purpose. But what does lust look like? What does it make you think?
How can it make you feel? To answer these questions honestly, one would have to
say that lust continues to show up within us all the same. But how we
experience it will always have its differences because of how we choose to
respond. Lust has no choice, but to remain the simple element with a big punch
that its always been. How we experience it, control it and even hate or enjoy
it, will all depend on our choice of how we wield it as individuals.
Below I would like to introduce you to what I call an
'Expression In Real Life' for lust. As the title says expression, I will give
you the thoughts and feelings one might have during the height of our element
of relationship called lust. I hope you will enjoy.
LUST; noun / verb
:very
strong sexual desire.
:having a
very strong sexual desire for someone.
I know I’m not supposed to and I know it's not right, but
it seems too late for me now. My reactions to him are on auto pilot now. I
thought on it and realized just now, my thoughts today are only long
continuations of those that go back to the very beginning. I don’t remember the
date of day one. No, I can't say which day of the week it was that day it first
happened, but what I can never forget is this feeling of unexpected heat
bursting from my body. Without my permission or my control, it seems to have
thoughts of its own apart from my brain.
I never told myself how attractive he is for me or even
thought how nice it would be to be with him, so I was amazed. Of course, he’s
handsome, smart and perfect and who wouldn’t want him? But the fact remains I
never once told myself that I wanted him. My body, my body, my body did. Every
time, since that day I can't remember or no matter how long the time between,
when he enters a room, my body jumps to remind me of how I feel. Not how I felt
or remember the time! It all started that one day long ago and has been here within
me ever since.
Yes I do, very much enjoy the time we spend together, doing
the things that are expected of us. But I won't lie about it. Ooh how I wish
and love for him to just take me. Yes, take me. Please take me, anywhere and
take my body, for his own. All my imagined pleasures and happiness of him
taking me have built up to the heights of a tidal wave inside of me! How nice
it would be to let it all come crashing out and shower all over him ever so
gently, filled with my passion. Looking at his body, naked, warm and firm
between my legs makes my head shake ‘no, no’, who could be that blessed?
I watch him in a room from afar, so modest. He doesn’t
know. Just his mere presence shakes my insides. Some kind of wonderful this man
is in his stature. Tall, lean and clean, I need to lick all of him. My soft
lips, oh my wet mouth, pleasing his lips, all down his body and maybe more.
Thoughts of him laying his body down offering it to me,
tingles me all over. Feeling him beneath my hot body between my legs. Just
once. As I ride him with never ending pleasure that's too much for my mind to
wrap around right now. His inviting smile, glowing soft skin and the muscles
truly makes my fantasy of eating him up that much more real. I’m not asking for
a date or even a movie night, we can skip all that. My hands all over his body
and feeling him deep inside just for a night, one beautiful night is all I ask.
Feeling and enjoying each bump against me, I'll hold on to
the chair tight. His passion in grip around my waist as I’m down on all four or
him pounding down on me while I’m on my back with my legs wrapped around his,
either one will do. Hearing his moans of pleasure that my body bring and my
moaning to feeling his desire for me in his stroke, all are parts of my incredible
dream. His eyes are dreamy and I could never say no to him, but how can I ask
him to rock my middle? How can I even get him to want me?
Are most important
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Enjoying his strong passion for great relationships, F.
Alexander is the creator and writer of RelationshipGED. Frequently sharing his
unique perspective when responding to and teaching others on the subject of
relationship, he was urged by many to focus his talents on writing. As he
continues to enjoy his various long term relationships with family, friends and
colleagues, his continued passion for helping others and becoming a great
writer, grows every day. F. Alexander is a freelance writer, married and a
proud father of five. He currently lives and writes in the Southeast of the
USA.
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Reference and research:
http://www.biblestudytools.com/dictionary/lust/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/snow-white-doesnt-live-here-anymore/201205/whats-wrong-little-lust-in-your-life
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