Friendship with a side of SEX!

Can FRIENDS have SEX and still be friends?

Always a touchy subject, but what's more interesting are the responses to this age old question. It seems that just as soon as you find someone that says YES, it's possible, another person will pop up and say NO, it will never work.

The facts of the matter are it has worked for many, while at the very same time, never worked for just as many. The act of friends engaging our friendships into a sexually situation just for the pure act of sex - doesn't prove to be all bad by itself, but there is a 'toll to pay' that falls on our friendships. Weather that toll is positive or negative heavily depends on joint understandings agreed upon before the sex happens and the follow up actions shared between the friends afterward.

Relationship education proves to us that our relationships aren't built on weather we have sex in them or not, sex doesn't prove to be that important. Our friendships, on the other hand, are one of our 'top shelf' types of relationships. Ask any couple that has managed to stay together for over twenty years, how did they do it and you will find somewhere in their answer: because of our friendship.

As most of us have come to understand, becoming lovers isn't as hard as becoming friends. So my bigger question is: Can we loose our friendship by choosing to become sexual? If we truly are friends and mature about it, we should have the conversation before we engage in the act. It seems with women, the developing of new emotional attachments afterwards is a main issue while with men, it may be the idea of how long will it continue. For those of us who believe that it can work, it will work for them. But for those who strongly feel it won't, most likely it will go very wrong. A real friendship already includes love, attraction and passion to some degrees. So adding sex doesn't develop these emotions, it simply allows us to connect physical intimacy to our friendship. 

As an adult, you will have to decide for yourself  if you have what it takes to pull sex with a friend off. Either way, we can't deny the fact that it is possible because too many of us have done it, enjoyed it and STILL have our valued friend in our lives.

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