BEING STRONG in relationships

I most recently came across a post in a google+ community about being strong in relationships. This is the quote everyone was commenting on:

"Be Strong" Easy to say, hard to do."

Of course there were plenty of comments that were going all over the place and naturally everyone responds based on their current positions and perspectives. But what I find interesting is how most of us want deep relationships, but don't look deeper into what things are and mean in our relationships.

So here's my reply:
I agree that this is a common saying, but before we can be strong we have to do what comes first: grow strength. Being strong means being able to handle things like relationship's pressure. But before we can do strong, we have to grow strength, which is done mentally. Learning and understanding who we are in our relationships grows ourselves and produces strength. Once we grow it and use it we can then described ourselves as being strong.

So here's my take:
Now I understand that many may not completely understand what I mean here and that's okay. But the truth of the matter is we all need to take the time to learn what we should be understanding about quotes like this. Every quote won't be about you and your position in your relationship(s), but all helpful information is useful - if you use it properly.

Some of us do what I call "Read and Preach" with these quotes and never take the time to learn and realize what they are really saying. They read them, stand on a soap box and preach them to anyone that will listen - but can't explain them or define most of the words they are repeating.

Like all other things in this life that we aspire to be good at - we study it! We all have to learn that being better in relationships starts with learning about relationships (not from just our experiences) but from all there is available to be learned.

What you think? I would love to know......leave your comment below!

F. Alexander

Introductions....

Hello and thank you for taking the time to visit RelationshipG.E.D.'s blog!

I am F. Alexander, the author of the relationship course named RelationshipG.E.D. and creator of this blog.

I invite any and everyone to come, read and share their relationship experiences here with each other. Of course our goal is to be inspirational, honest, helpful and supportive of one another as we all continue to navigate this thing we all call relationship.

I will be making references to the course RelationshipG.E.D. throughout this blog, so it's only fitting that I give you a brief description of what is RelationshipG.E.D.;

RelationshipGED is your general education degree in relationships! It was created and designed to help you and I gain a deeper understanding of how we connect to one another in this thing we generally just call relationship(s). Letting go of what we think we know, re-learning things we thought we knew and learning new things we never knew is the focus of RelationshipGED.

A note on why I wrote a course:

Before writing this course, just like many of us, I use to keep my eyes and ears open for new ideas that I could learn and use to fix issues I had in my relationships and make them better. During those times, I kept my hopes up thinking I would come across some secret something or a missing puzzle piece that I’d been overlooking for years. Then I could learn it, use it and it could just make things better in all my relationships. Even though I couldn't quite put my finger on exactly what I was looking for, what I did know is that something was needed, which I intended on finding and I wasn't giving up. So I had a mission, right? Sounds like a mission to me, lol (laughing-out-loud)

From day one of my mission, I decided to do two things: search everywhere and write everything down along the way. Sadly to say, I found that I was always writing or at least trying hard to remember all of the many things I had come across. And that’s when I understood. That's when I began to see what I was learning! So it hit me and I learned. What I realized is that because relationships are multifaceted and fluid, this causes them to constantly be always and forever changing. This is why they require many ‘secrets somethings’ and many ‘puzzle pieces’ to make them work efficiently – not just one!

A note about myself:

Giving it to you straight, I’m NOT an Associate, B.A., M.A. or a Ph.D. I wasn’t a counselor or even a life coach in my career field when I began writing this course. What I was in a nut shell is a regular person just like you. I had a few relationships that I knew could be improved on and this made me desire a better understanding of relationship knowledge. As I searched hi and low for that knowledge, I found some answers that I thought could help me out, but in an instance I realized how wrong I was about just finding answers. In the end, the trial and error paid off in a big way. Who I am now is a regular person who uses the tools I've created to keep and improve my great relationships, while confident enough to share what I've learned here with you.

Thank you for coming by - hope to see you again, often.

F. Alexander